The Power of Focus

The Power of Focus

by Bradley Davidson, Personal and Professional Coach

It was 2:00 a.m. The heavy sleet-snow mixture pelted the big black
funeral hearse I was driving down the stretch of the dark interstate
highway. The headlights of the hearse tried to pierce the white sheet of
winter storm but instead reflected off the whiteness, nearly blinding me.
I couldn’t see where I was going. I was in the middle of nowhere, alone.
I was 19 years old and I was scared.

When I was a college student in a small town in central Oklahoma, I
worked part-time at a local funeral home. Being the most junior member of
the staff (and, shall I say, the most naïve), I was always the first
choice of staff members to make the “middle-of-the-night” calls. I had
been sent to Oklahoma City to retrieve the remains of a deceased person.
The winter storm had just begun when I drove the “first call” hearse
from the funeral home parking lot to begin my unforgettable trek to
Oklahoma City. By the time I began my journey home, the winter storm was
hitting full force.

As I was driving through the snowy, icy blanket, I kept thinking of all
the terrible things that could happen to me. Because I couldn’t see, I
could drive off the highway and be trapped in a snowy embankment for weeks!
(No, I was not a drama major!) Or, I could pull over to the side of the
road and wait for the storm to subside but I might not be noticed by a big
truck and be hit from behind. My heart raced. My choices were limited. I
was in danger. My heart was beating out of my chest!

Then, I realized that, if I put my headlights on the dim setting, I could
faintly see the tail lights of an eighteen-wheel rig just ahead of me. I
thought, “OK, if I can only keep those lights as my focus, I can follow
that truck through the storm.” Then, I realized that, between my hearse
and that truck, there could be dips and curves in the road. So, I thought,
“If I can keep the yellow strip in the center of the road (barely visible
just over the front left corner of the car hood), I can stay on the
road.” For the next hour, I focused on the comforting red lights of the
truck ahead and watched the yellow line in the road. I (and my passenger)
made it back home safely.

Many times since that experience, I have faced challenging and seemingly
insurmountable goals in my life. I always think back to my experience of
driving in that icy storm. What kept me on course then can keep me on
course now; the power of focus (and a lot of prayer).

What’s Blinding You?

The falling snow and ice blinded me that dark night on the highway. What
is blinding you from your goals? What is preventing you from focusing on
the destination? Many things in our lives can become obstacles to focusing
on what is important, including:

§ Poorly defined destination – We usually know the general
vicinity of where we want to go in our lives but often do not define the
destination clearly enough. This confusion can become a barrier to
focusing on what is important because we may not know our destination.

§ Fear – Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the
unknown, and other fears can often blind us from focusing on the goals in
our lives.

§ Lack of confidence – Thinking “I can’t” sometimes
takes over our willingness to focus on what is important. Sometimes these
messages come from within; sometimes they come from others in our life.

§ Not knowing how to focus – The lack of skill in finding and
maintaining the focus prevents many of us from focusing on the goals in our
lives.

The first step is to identify the goal (or the vision), then identify
what barriers are standing in the way of focusing on that goal.

Three Steps to Establishing and Maintaining Focus

Much like my success in navigating the snowstorm and arriving safely
home, achieving your life purpose and goals relies heavily on four key
elements:

- Know your destination even if it is far away. Know where you are trying
to go. Understand the vision and purpose you are trying to realize.
Unless you have the destination clearly in mind, you will not be able to
gauge your progress in getting there. Several tools are available on my
website ([http://www.liveandworkonpurpose.com/]
www.liveandworkonpurpose.com) to help you identify your vision and
purpose.

- Identify the tail lights in your life. Just like I focused on the red
tail lights of the truck ahead of me in the storm, you can identify and
focus on the milestones between where you are and where you want to be. In
other words, set “step by step” goals along the road that will lead you
to your ultimate purpose. Then, stay focused on them.

- Watch the road. While it’s important to focus on the goal and the
milestones, it’s also important to watch the yellow strip along the
highway of your life. This will help you ensure you are not veering off
course as you move toward your goals. A useful tool for watching the road
is my “Purpose Foundation Program”, also available on my website.

- Prayer. Constantly asking for direction and help in maintaining faith
and focus is critical.

Maintaining the Focus

Once you’ve established your vision, milestone goals, and understand
where you are in the road, you are well on your way to reaching your vision
destination. Keep your focus on what is important. And remember, the
journey is just as important as the destination. During that terrible
snowstorm, my growth occurred not at my destination, but on the road.

Now, start your engine and get on the road.

Copyright 2008 - Bradley Davidson